This is the 6th installment in a series reviewing PERSIST In Praise of the Creative Spirit in a World Gone Mad with Commerce by Peter Clothier.
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines the word as a function word to express the negative of an alternative choice or possibility. No is also used to express negation, dissent, denial or refusal. Why does the word “no” have such a bad reputation?
According to Clothier: “What happens when I can’t say no is that I never get to do what I intend to do.” It’s important to discover what time is valuable and how it can fill up so quickly with clutter. It breaks down to the simple but essential concept that quality is more important than quantity.
Boundaries: “Nice people find them difficult to observe. We feel compelled to say yes to everything in order not to offend others or fail to meet up to their expectations, even-no, especially – those we love.” It’s saying yes to everyone all the time. I find that the people who don’t like you to say no are the ones who use the word the most.
Saying no can be a good thing. As a result, when you say yes it’s more meaningful.
“A Quick and Easy Meditation”
Stopping, stepping back, observing and existing all in an effort to reconnect. Clothier: “I find it useful to stop what I’m doing from time to time and take a moment to get recharged.” Good advice but for some it’s hard to follow. Focusing on the breathe is an effective way to find the strength to get through the day.
How do we find time for meditation? By saying no.